This post by Ellen Martin at Seedbed has some links to other good resources regarding healthy sexuality and talking about it in the church.
The post also includes some of Martin’s experiences when she was seeking guidance, correction, and support from the church during a time of bondage to sexual sin.
Six years later when I came to the church to be a part of the body of Christ, I lived in sexual bondage. I sought guidance and understanding about my sexual temptations and sins. I wanted to know the voice of Christ. I asked a young adult ministry leader. I was told it wasn’t one of the top 10 sins and to not be so hard on myself. I never went back. I did find a wonderful congregation, but I wandered for weeks and months alone in bondage and shame as I worshipped with no help from the church. I quit asking because it seemed clear that this was not a conversation the church wanted to have. It seemed I would have to go at this part of discipleship alone with Jesus. The world celebrated and offered every opportunity for me to embrace my sexual desires. The church either condemned my sin, abstained their voice, or belittled my bondage.